Parenting Priorities

Few minor changes in word and the whole meaning changes so drastically. How about replacing “I shoulds” to “I coulds.” How many times, we think of we should this, we should that sort of statements. The trap of ‘I Should’ is hugely menacing. This statement reflects pressure and condition of idealism and that is one false note to begin with. Whenever we force ourselves to do some thing which seems good in future tense, we kind of mentally pressurize ourselves for unpredictable eventualities whereas, saying ‘I Could’ gives you choice of doing those particular things as per your convenience. There is not much change in saying I should and I could but the mindset changes. Now, why I am emphasizing this difference is because parents needs to do few things for the kids which have been floating in planning since eternity.

Whenever parents say ‘I could’ to them they find their mindset changed in a positive way. They move forward towards getting things done which they could. How about making a list of ‘I could’ as a parent for your kids? Its better late than never and all parents need to think is ‘Now is the time’ to do all those wonderful things for their kids. Let’s start by making a list for your beautiful children.

Spending few special moments with your children each day.
Planning a simple but fun-filled activity with your kids.
Asking your children to help in few household chores.
Ask yourself to be more patient with your child.
Whenever your child does something that annoys you, you will be more consistent in dealing with them.
Organizing playroom and bedroom of your kids.
Setting time limits for children when it comes to watching TV.

Parenting In New Year

Life never offers any surety for anything. What does that convey? Nobody can claim to live forever. We are never sure when the final time is going to approach us. That also says, parenting which is nothing but a beautiful art needs to be given proper time and care. Our kids are our lifelines and when we compromise in spending quality time with them, it can not be compensated with any form of gifts, cakes, chocolates etc. we would love our kids to remember as someone who gave us complete attention, catered to our silly desires and gave us maximum possible care and love. Whenever we listen to kids by spending time with them we come across many facets of us, previously unknown to us.

So why not take an initiative in brand new year by doing few special things for our kids and with our kids. The year has kick started on anew note and that tells us to reflect back on the past year. How we were to our lifelines? Is there any possibility of improvement? Try to plan for your kids in this New Year. Think of new things that will please your kids. I am not asking you to make new resolutions or things to do sort of things because they often tend to go wayward with the course of time. The point is not to put pressure on parents by planning numerous things or thinking way ahead of times. Quite often these plans put extra pressure and stress on parents which ultimately leads to non-fulfillment of originally planned things. Be realistic.

Parenting Time

How many parents have been heard saying,
I will go with my kids for outing tomorrow or son, next week we will go for swimming session or soon enough we will arrange bike riding or whenever I will get time, I will accompany you to sports ground and several such commitments which are always subject to time availability. And when the time comes, parents are found wanting in fulfilling their promises. Now, one thing is for sure, no parents do it for his own pleasure. Definitely time and several worldly constraints cause parents to delay their programs. But one thing is also true; procrastination is never an appreciated virtue even by cynics. Parents have several jobs to do including, waking up early morning, doing dishes, preparing meals, teaching kids, doing their own jobs and several such things. It’s a hectic life for parents but its also an immensely joyful and satisfying experience. These mundane things are definitely not as important as catering to our kids but sooner than later our habits turn them into most looked after priorities.

Do we notice that most often than not, we tend to postpone the most important things of our lives. We take kids for granted and always think of doing our committed things some other times. Parents don’t do this intentionally but then they also forget that kids grow up quite fast. Don’t try to play catch up with your kids. Try to create time for them from nowhere. There is always a time for our kids for which we strive to work hard. Don’t miss the opportunities by delaying things. If we want to share wonderful moments with our kids, we need to create time for them.

The Art of Parenting

Parenting is one of the most difficult as well as beautiful responsibility. The blog name says the beautiful art of parenting and yes, indeed it is! Ever seen a painter using brushstrokes on a blank canvas? Check his sincerity and carefulness while using the colors. Even the brushstrokes are so calculated so that the end result exactly comes out the way he wanted to. A slight miss of brush, a wrong usage of color and painting does not remain the same. Similarly with parenting, its nothing less than art which needs to be performed with utmost care, devotion and sincerity.

Every would-be parent aspires to be the greatest one. Most of them seek inspiration from their own parents and few others prefer to improve upon the parenting they received. Either way, the end result is ambition of proving to be the best ever parent. Parents want to give their best to their kids in terms of knowledge, wisdom and as we Indians love to call, ‘Sanskaras’. The art of parenting comes up with huge responsibility. Most of the people wonder, how do you define parenting? The answer is not easy because whatever we will say will turn out to be an ideal list yet there are few basic things associated with parenting. Apart from providing food, clothes and shelters to our children, parents love their kids unconditionally. They treat their kids equally and there is no gender bias. Parents also have the responsibility of guiding their children on the right path in the best way possible. Parents need to combine pragmatism and idealism while imparting values to their children. On that note, let’s try to learn the beautiful art of parenting.