Let’s talk about a girl named Reema. A very sensitive child of 7 years, she would often run into her room and shut the door whenever she was upset with her parents. This condition is a normal one in many families. Now what makes the things different is how the parents respond in such situations. In case of Reema, her parents would ignore her and will only knock the door when its meal time. If the child comes her parents don’t discuss the topic at all and if she does not then they won’t call her again, thinking that when her stomach starts growling she will come out on her own. That’s how Reema’s parents decided to tackle the issues. Now Reema is a grown up lady with two beautiful kids. She is very close with them but she does not feel any sort of attachment with her parents. What Reema’s parents did was to make her feel aloof and till the date she is not comfortable discussing her feelings with them.
What does this story teaches you? It’s never a good idea to ignore your child’s misery or problem. Question your children and try to probe a bit into his/her psyche. Reema’s parents could have easily asked her questions like, “were you angry? Why did you run into your room? What happened? Did someone hurt you? Did we said anything that upset you?” These questions would have made a lot of difference in that kid’s life and today, Reema’s behavior with her parents would have been totally different and pleasing.
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